I didn’t start cheating because I was tired of saltine crackers. I wasn’t getting saltines anymore, so decided to go find some. That was over three years ago, and covid aside I’ve managed to build decent sex life out of the ashes of my dead bedroom.
The biggest discovery I’ve made in the last three years is non-spontaneous sex that’s booked into the calendar gets me super horny!
That’s right!
There is very little spontaneity in adultery, but if I know I’m going to have a mouth on my pussy Friday night from 6 to 10 PM — I’m going to be thinking of it all week.
And guess what? We have great sex.
Every. Single. Time.
That got me thinking — if cheaters can get horny about calendar sex, then why can’t everyone else?
Here’s how.
Schedule sexy times
Intimacy is especially important in any relationship. The loss of intimacy is what made me start looking. Making time for your partner is crucial, and the best way to do that is to schedule it.
Now, every time I look at myself in the mirror on the days I’m going to get laid do a little happy dance while telling myself I’m going to get fucked! I can’t help it! When I know I’m going to get the sex, it makes my whole day better.
For me, sex is about being close to my affair partner, sharing my thoughts and feelings, and enjoying his company. When it’s scheduled, you can then plan to make it quality pussy and cock time. Sex is an important part of any relationship so treat it that way!
Put it on the calendar — “you/me — fucking — Weds, 8–10”
When it’s on the calendar you both have to make a conscious decision not to have sex.
Make it a priority to have sex on a regular basis
Making sex a priority means scheduling it on a regular basis. Once a week? Once every two weeks? Whatever, but throw it on the calendar and be consistent. If things start getting away from you, you need to lock it down. You don’t take your kids to soccer once every whenever do you? You don’t. So, why fuck once every whenever?
Regularly scheduled sex does two things –
- Builds anticipation!
- Prevents double booking!
When you know it’s happening you can start getting sexy with them in the lead up. Send a pic of a wet finger. Send a nude or a dirty sext.
Make them horny for you!
Be creative!!!!
My lover is an expert at trying new things to make me feel good. I don’t know where he gets it, whether it’s a massage, a good finger fucking from behind while on my front, toe sucking, or a shared bath, he knows how to pique my interest, like this:
- DON’T ROLL ON AND ROLL OFF — do something different every time!
- MUSIC AND SCENTS ARE PERFECT — make it special by adding romance!
- GO WITH THE FLOW — letting the mood dictate!
- CHANGE THE SCENERY — explore an overnight at a hotel, the backseat, or take a trip to a sex club
- TAKE TURNS — don’t always have one plan or choreograph your sex date
Creativity prevents monotony, and to keep it creative you need to talk about sex!
Talk about your fantasies
My lover and I are open about our desires and have acted on them. I had sex with a woman for him. He’s arranged threesomes for me. Be open to what your partner wants.
Encourage them to share their ideas free of judgement. Even if you don’t think what they’re talking about is possible, hear them out! Because she has a kink doesn’t mean she’s looking to have it filled.
Always be open-minded because you never know what great ideas will appeal to you! And no matter what they suggest or desire, do not judge them.
Being judgemental is the surest way to kill creativity, and do you know who will never judge them?
Their affair partner.
The importance of both partners being satisfied
Everyone cums!! My affair partner tends to fall asleep after he cums so he puts me first. He makes sure I’m well on my way, and brings me my toys to help finish me off. He doesn’t feel bad about not making me cum. Very few men ever have. But what he does is makes sure that I do have the chance to have an orgasm during our session.
Sex is a two-way street, and it’s important that both partners are satisfied. If one partner feels like they’re not getting what they need, tension and resentment builds.
If he leaves me hanging after he cums and falls asleep, I’m not going to do that for long.
Takeaway
If you want to keep your marriage strong, it’s important to schedule sex by putting it on the calendar — regularly! Be creative to keep things interesting, and openly discuss new ideas without judgement, whether you’re into them or not. It’s crucial to communicate, and to make sure both partners feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and desires. Remember everybody cums!
If you fuck like cheaters, neither of you will have to become one to get your needs met.
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