Learning the ropes and how not to fall off them.
Welcome to Lesson One
It all starts here. Unless you’ve waded in without doing any research, then you might learn these things as you go. As an experienced cheater, I would recommend that before you start down your path to unethical non-monogamy (adultery), the best place to start is with:
1. the language cheaters use.
2. how cheaters get caught.
This lesson will introduce you to both concepts. The linked articles will help you get along in the community, and the second will keep you in it.
Language
Like with any subculture or hobby, there are specific terms and terminology cheaters use to communicate. You will see them used in cheater profiles and on r/:adultery (a great subreddit but use a throwaway account based on a throwaway email address before commenting), so you might as well learn them first so you can decode the language.
You are new to the game and will have several challenges. One of them is scaring off the more serious lovers you are looking for. How you ask?
People who don’t look like they know what they’re doing are security risks to those who do. And if you are a risk, they’ll move on without so much as a glance.
More experienced cheaters don’t want to break-in someone new. They’ll meet you once with your clothes on, and if everything checks out, they’ll want to meet for sex the next time.
On that date, they won’t want to see your tears as you sit on the edge of the bed with second thoughts about going through with it. They’re there for sex and don’t want to deal with your limp dick or anxiety.
Knowing how to read and write the language will give them confidence in you. They’ll think you know what you’re doing so may not be reluctant. Yeah, you’re basically scamming them, and yes, you might have anxiety and mess up your first date, but hey, you got them there!
Of course, people are kind and will help you manage it if something happens, but if they think it will happen, they won’t bother with you. It is so hard to get out, they aren’t going to waste the effort on a maybe, so don’t be that maybe and flake out.
This article will help you communicate with confidence. You don’t need to use it the language (and DON’T be a loser and overuse it), but if you know what your pAP means and respond correctly, you will boost their confidence in you.
54 Acronyms and Jargon Every Cheater Should Know:
“Hotwife looking for a dom Bull, BBC preferred, for ONS/FWB NSA fun times. Can host. No MM, please, not looking for…medium.com
How Cheaters Fail
Learning how people get caught will be critical to your success. You’ll only get one mistake, so learning from those who have made theirs will help you. Sure, some will seem obvious, but others may surprise you. If you are going do some life long learning in adultery, it should be in avoiding failure.
Why? So you can build in the behaviors you need to prevent failure. If you’re wise, you will always think about what could go wrong, and how, and then work out was to avoid it. As you get more experience this will become easier, but remember:
You will only ever be as good as your last date, so make sure it’s a good one.
Avoiding Failure
Summary
Learning the language will make you look less new to experienced cheaters. And you want that, because not all cheaters are looking to break someone in, but just get down to it. Also, we’ll talk about it later in building your profile, but knowing the language will protect you from people looking to score off fresh meat, because not all cheaters are created equally.
And I dropped failure here, at the start, because you need to think about this everyday. How am I going to fail? How will it go down? When you think about it, it makes you come up with ways to stop it. Everything you do as cheater should focus on not getting caught — if you want to keep your primary relationship.
Check out Lesson Two!
Lesson Two — Are you sure you want to have an affair?
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