After our latest session, my lover asked me if I liked watching him ejaculate close up. And my answer was a resounding yes!
“I do. I love watching you cum!” I told him.
I can tell when he is enjoying it because I can sense the change when his focus shifts towards what I’m doing and he excludes all else. He quivers. His legs tense up and his breathing becomes irregular as holds his breath, then exhales sharply.
“You know me so well,” he chuckled sheepishly as we lay in bed. “I guess I start squirming when I can’t hold it any longer.”
“I hope I’m getting it right,” I smiled, “but you sound happy enough.”
“If I cum you’re doing something right!”
No truer words were spoken by a man.
So why do I feel so good when I get him off? What is it about seeing a stream of jetting hot cum emanate from him as he writhes in passion that lights my fire?
Why do I feel so empowered?
“Women’s empowerment is not about ‘having it all.’ It’s not about balancing work and family or having a successful marriage. Instead, women need to be supported in their full humanity.”
- Rachel Lloyd
Female empowerment is about living fulfilled lives, so how does sucking someone off factor into that? In a way, living our best lives by pursuing our passions and satisfying our sexual needs is embracing the elements of female empowerment.
Taking back my sexuality was empowerment.
What is female empowerment, and how does it apply to a blow job?
The need to be loved and show love passionately is captured perfectly in the vulnerability of orally satisfying someone.
Empowerment is not just about balancing work and family or having a successful relationship. Women need to be supported fully, and sexual expression is a crucial facet of that support. Even if I’m average in many ways, when I give a blow job, it feels like I wield this incredible sexual power over my lover in that moment.
Feeling him tense at my touch and react to my hand or mouth on him is thrilling. Deciding whether to give him more or less pleasure. Deciding when and how his release will come. It’s the most intimate level of control anyone can exercise over someone.
His cock exploding in my hand or mouth feels like an accomplishment. It’s like the manifestation of my sexual energy I transfer to him through my touch is released as he moans with each passing wave of pleasure.
I can’t be the only one who feels this way?
I can’t be the only one who feels empowered by giving a man an orgasm.
Empower yourself as a sexual being
You need to believe in your sexuality. Believe that you are strong, in control and that you can do anything you put your mind to. For me, it was finally recognizing my sexual being and admitting to myself I not only enjoyed sex but wanted it. I wanted to use my body to give and receive pleasure in ways I’d never admitted.
To find confidence in my body again allowed me to be open-minded about what was going on around me, and it helped me listen to my needs with both ears — no longer ignoring myself or being tuned into another person.
For me, my empowerment came when I started listening to myself.
It took me a long time to believe my lover when he told me I was beautiful. But, when I started repeating his words, I no longer felt uncomfortable being naked. I started to see what he saw, and that’s what unlocked the full potential of my sexual energy and passion.
The benefits of female sexual empowerment
Valuing myself as much as I value the men in my life has given me sexual freedom and inner peace. Taking my sex life back has not only empowered but emboldened me.
Women who are empowered have better mental and physical health, and higher self-esteem. They tend to be happier with their lives overall, and I am happier now than I had been in years. Women’s happiness is intrinsically linked to the sexual quality of their relationships, so when they feel sexually valued by their partner, it can’t help but spill into other areas of their lives.
Conclusion
It is not just a blow-job, but how my sexual passion and energy is transferred to my lover and released. To achieve a sense of sexual empowerment, I needed to believe I was worthy and deserving of physical love after so long without it. It’s essential for women to sexually empower themselves, open their minds to their needs, and begin listening to their inner sexual voice with both ears.
When I give my lover an orgasm with my mouth, I’m reminded of how much control over my sexuality I’ve gained and how far I’ve come on this journey of self-discovery.
When I stopped letting others define my sexuality, I regained control of it.
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