Oftentimes, cheaters find themselves navigating new waters when it comes to their first sex date. It can be daunting, but with a little preparation, you can make the experience great for both of you. Here are some secrets for men on how to prepare for their first sex date.
Why men and not men and women? That’s easy! Women are used to doing all the heavy lifting when it comes to organizing family activities. If you take the lead, right off the bat she’ll feel the stress melting away. She’s cheating to escape her life, not to take on more of the mundane tasks that fill her days. If you give her that escape she will be so, so, grateful!
First and foremost, relax! This is supposed to be fun, so try not to put too much pressure on yourself. Make sure you’re well-groomed and smelling good; nothing turns a woman off more than bad breath or body odor. Be confident in what you’re doing; if you start doubting yourself, she’ll pick up on and flake on you.
It can be tricky to set up your first sex date — you want it to be discreet and enjoyable for both of you. Here are some tips to help make sure everything goes smoothly! The first impression is everything, so here are 7 secrets to making your date successful.
Secret #1: Plan a fun date
The best dates are a little adventurous, so don’t be afraid to get creative when coming up with ideas. Pick a classy hotel room with plenty of space to make her feel pampered, and pick up wine, water and snacks.
As you chat her up before your first sex date, ask her about her favorite wine, musical interests, and most importantly food and scent allergies!
There’s nothing like being greeted with a nice glass of wine and a nibble walking into a nice hotel room. Setting the mood by lowering the lights, and a little background music will lighten the atmosphere and ensure you’ll both feel comfortable and cosy enough to enjoy yourselves!
Secret #2: Make a great first impression
One of the most important things to remember is that the first impression is everything. You might have already met (in fact I recommend it), but that doesn’t mean you know each other. They say you only get one chance to make a good first impression, but in cheating, you usually only get one chance to make a bad impression, whether it’s the first time you’ve met or not — so make sure it’s not on this date! So be sure to dress nicely and act confidently. Smile, make eye contact, and try to find something in common to talk about, as your nerves settle.
Secret #3: Don’t be too aggressive
It’s important not to come on too strong when you’re first meeting for sex. Instead, take it slow and let the conversation flow naturally. Be yourself and relax. Let the wine and the music be your guide. You’ll usually only have a few hours, and she knows why you’re there, but that doesn’t mean you need to rush her into getting naked.
If she rushes into getting naked, role with it, but plan to give her a second to put her feet up and take a deep breath. She’ll thank you for it.
Secret #4: Keep your expectations low
Don’t go into the sex date expecting it to be the best night of your life. Just relax and have fun — if things go well, great, but if they don’t, at least you had an opportunity to knock one out. For some women, they need to get to know their lover before they can fully let go, and that might take a few dates. The best way to make it to the next date is to set up a good first date and be chill throughout, no matter what happens.
Secret #5: Be respectful
The first sex dates can sometimes lead to awkward situations, but it’s important to be respectful of your date’s boundaries and comfort level. If you’re making them feel uncomfortable, they’ll probably end the date early or not want a second one, so make sure that doesn’t happen!
Its important to remember that even if she’s looking for sex, it doesn’t mean she’s a nympho, cum slut, bootie call, or whore. Also remember that the things you might have chatted about in terms of her sexual fantasies might not really be things she’s ready to try with you on the first date, so leave your ropes, handcuffs, and blindfolds in the car.
Secret #6: Be your best self
One of the worst things you can do on a date is pretend to be someone you’re not, but being the best version of you helps sustain the fantasy. The other person will eventually figure out you are someone else’s Homer, but be her James Bond. She won’t like you for who you are if you remind her of her hubby. If you do that then you’re not worth her time.
What’s a Homer? Someone who complains about his wife, dresses like a slob, doesn’t do anything to prepare for the date except show up, plays with his phone, and my cardinal sin — doesn’t kiss the kitty. Oral satisfaction is 90% of the reason I cheat!
Secret #7: Have fun!
The most important thing to remember during your first sex date is that you’re supposed to have fun! Keep it light, roll with it, and try and do the things you both like. So while you might not bring your bondage kit the first time out, find out some of the little things she likes and do that. Does she want to be held and kissed? Focus on that.
Takeaway
Though it may seem daunting, you can have a great first sex date if you follow the tips I’ve outlined above. Remember that this is your chance to make an impression on someone who could turn into a long term affair partner down the line so be respectful and keep expectations low. If all else fails, remember what makes YOU feel good in bed and do those things! There are no rules about how to go about having an amazing time with someone new but don’t forget to enjoy yourself as well!
Thanks for reading! I hope these tips help you have a successful sex date. Do you have any dating advice to share? Leave a comment!
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