Don’t have an affair with anyone your spouse knows
Traditional affair partners are the ones the bible warns you about. You know, like your neighbour’s wife, or the cute guy at work. These affair partners dramatically increase your risk of getting caught, because you interact socially or professionally in front of your spouse, friends, or coworkers. People in your circle will see how you behave towards each other.
Any time your spouse sees you with your affair partner, you risk them noticing what’s going on.
Why? Your spouse constantly assesses the people around you to see if they are threats to his relationship. What’s this mean? They have evaluated your affair partner before you hooked up with him. If your affair partner was on their mental list, they will watch you closely. If you don’t think so, you’re lying to yourself.
Add to this the risk of gossiping around the water-cooler behind your back at work. What if your young office affair partner reports you to Human Resources because you’re his boss and he wants your job? If he’s claiming sexual harassment and demanding a payout, you might lose your job — try explaining that to hubby.
Does this mean an affair with a traditional affair partner can’t work?
No, but what happens when you break up, but you still have to act friendly? Things may normalize, but ask yourself what the next few months or years are going to look like? Imagine sitting at the family dinner table with your ex-affair partner. The same vindictive cow who dumped you over text using a video of her and her new lover having sex.
Could you say, ‘oh yes, thank you, Sue, I would love another piece of pie,’ at Christmas like the sun shone out of her ass? You’re going to have to if you don’t want to risk your primary relationship.
Security is about reducing risk to manageable levels, but some risks can’t be reduced. If you can’t cut risk to a manageable level, you’ll have to rely on luck, and then you only have to answer one question:
‘Do I feel lucky?’
– Dirty Harry
Well, do ya punk?
If you can’t reduce the risk to a manageable level, you need a different affair partner.
Or make peace with the consequences of your reckless decision.
Cheaters need luck, but if you are managing your risks well, you’ll need — ‘I found a dollar!’ luck, and not, ‘I won the Power Ball.’
OPSEC Tip 001: Find an affair partner not connected to your social or work life to remove the risks traditional affair partner s pose.
Operational Security, or OPSEC, is the term cheaters use to describe how they keep their affairs secret. OPSEC is a process first used by the military to cover its tracks to stop the enemy from figuring out what is going on. Your spouse is the enemy. And so is everyone else you know. Covering your tracks will be the most crucial part of your affair.
The solution? Find a stranger on a dating app and keep them out of your life. Your mother-in-law might be hot AF, but she’s too hot by half.
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Exported from Medium on March 4, 2021.